Supporting autistic children who are being bullied

Start by believing your child

Many autistic kids struggle to describe what happened in a busy social situation. Look for patterns: stomachaches, refusing school, missing items, sudden anxiety, or changes in sleep. Validate first, then gather facts.

Document and report clearly

Write down dates, locations, names, and what your child reported. Ask the school for supervision details (bus, cafeteria, recess, bathrooms). Request a meeting and follow up in writing so there’s a record.

Teach safe "exit" skills

• Get help: identify two safe adults at school and practice asking for help.
• Leave and report: “I need help” + go to a safe spot.
• Short scripts: “Stop.” “Don’t touch me.” “I’m telling.”

Build confidence without blaming your child

The responsibility is always on the bully and the adults supervising. Skill-building is about increasing safety and support—not asking your child to “be less autistic.” Focus on coping skills, self-advocacy, and supportive friendships.

Where ABA or coaching can help

ABA can support practical skills like reporting problems, handling teasing scripts, and staying regulated after a stressful social event. The most helpful plans involve the school so the environment changes too.