Working with babysitters and respite providers

Respite only helps if the plan is clear

Many parents avoid hiring help because it feels like “too much to explain.” A short, written plan makes support safer and more consistent—and reduces stress for both the caregiver and your child.

Create a one-page care plan

• Communication: how your child asks for help/breaks, preferred prompts.
• Triggers: what usually causes escalations and early warning signs.
• Calm plan: what to do when your child is upset (less talk, offer break, visuals).
• Reinforcers: what motivates your child and how to use it.
• Safety: elopement risk, allergies, meds, emergency contacts.

Start with short, structured sessions

Begin with 30–60 minutes while you’re home. Have a predictable schedule (snack → game → outside → cleanup). Reinforce calm transitions. Increase time only after the caregiver and your child feel confident.

Teach the caregiver your scripts

Consistency matters more than personality. If your child responds to “First/then,” a token board, or a break card, train the caregiver to use the same tools the same way.

When it’s not a good fit

If a caregiver escalates conflict (too many words, power struggles, inconsistent follow-through), it’s okay to try someone else. Safety and predictability are non-negotiable.